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9 Attitudes Jon Kabat Zinn
\\I I the cultivation of mindfulness of moment to moment non judgmental awareness ... is really it sounds very simple but it's actually up just about the hardest work in the world for human beings ... because we get so caught up in our condition states of mind and ... when we begin to cultivate awareness it's really important to bring a certain attitudinal approach to it so that we're not trying to force anything to happen or sit in a kind of rigid posture or retain some special state that will you know that we sort of think because that's what it is I'll be enlightened or I'll just be permanently wiser albeit this or I'll be that the problem isn't actually with the enlightenment with the permanently lives or anything like that the problem is with the personal pronouns I mean my they are very very problematic because who we think we are and who we actually are are are very different and there is a huge separation who we think we are is very very small compared to who we actually and so when we are cultivating mindfulness NMB SRO with people we encourage a certain kind of ... attitude that's brought 2 of the formal and informal practices that you can keep in mind through your daily life as well and these are attitudes there were 7 of them that I put in full catastrophe living when I was writing it up because it really felt like if you bring up if you start to cultivate acceptance if you start to cultivate non striving if you start to cultivate letting go was leading be if you start to cultivate trust and patient that these qualities can be cultivated in everyday life with your children with your with your parents with your ... partner or spouse a with your colleagues at work and so it's a way of reinforcing in deepening the actual formal and informal meditation practice beginner's mind it's a lovely orientation to bring to the present ... this moment is always fresh always knew we've never been in this one before and it we bring so many ideas and attitudes and ... desires to every moment of it that we can't actually allow ourselves much of the time see things as if for the first time imagine bringing awareness to your children with beginner's mind so that you actually see them not through your lenses of ideas and opinions about your children but fresh the miracle of them the amazing nature that so of this is something that we we could bring to any moment our it has the virtue of ... sometimes we're so expert that our minds are just full of ... you know ... ... Eckhard expertise but it leaves us out without any ground for ... novelty ordered new possibilities in the mind of the expert they say there are very few possibilities but in the beginner's mind there an infinite possibilities because we come to it fresh so it's a little that kind of a discipline to try to bring beginner's mind to every aspect of your life and not be so stuck in our ideas and opinions about how much we like this who don't like that or what the outcome of a particular situation might be and when we come to things with this freshness it actually again has tremendous transformative qualities associated with it and when you bring it to other people and you're open and spacious with them and don't insist that they be the way they wear half an hour ago or 2 years ago or whatever it is they feel seen and recognized and mapped in the way that ... they might not otherwise ... experience that benefits them and it also benefits us and I non judging is a very important data element of my practice in fact is part of my working definition of mindful which is the awareness that arises through paying attention on purpose in the present moment non judgmental way and the non judgmental Lee is the real challenge ... because when you start to pay attention to what's on your mind you're very rapidly discover that we have ideas and opinions about everything about everything and we're always ... judging things in terms of I like that I don't like that I want that I don't want that this is good that's bad and it's like ... steady stream of judging touching touching so when we speak of mindfulness of being non judgmental awareness it doesn't mean that they want judgments it means that your you will be aware of how judgment to who we actually are and then not judge the judging and when we are relate to it in that kind of way then we begin to see that that are judging is very often black and white either this or that this way back good or bad like this one don't want I am we get imprisoned by that kind if you but not being non judgmental doesn't mean that all of a sudden you get stupid and think well I'm not going to be judgmental so I'll just walk out in the street in front of an oncoming truck a what difference it makes novel it means that we will cultivate discernment this is the capacity to see what's actually unfolding but not to judge it but to recognize it understand it in relationship to our spirits so ... when we speak about nonjudgmental awareness that's what we're talking about with tech talking about a very fine degree of assignment clarity of wisdom of understanding the interconnections between things and I at the same time noticing the tendency to judge quite quickly like don't like want don't want and and to recognize that that actually creates a kind of veil or a filter in front of our eyes that doesn't allow us the thing see that doesn't allow us to see things as they are but the only see them through the lenses of our own ideas and opinions and likes and dislikes which is practically blinding to us so there is this is a wonderful discipline the cultivation of awareness of judging and the ... cultivation of ... being mean Gentilly non judgmental or not judging the judging that we do discover in ourselves and over days weeks months and years out we can begin to actually find a way to navigate through are judging in such a way that I it no longer ... dominates our lives in quite the same way and we recognize when it comes up that it's actually in some sense toxic and the more we challenge it and the more we rest and discernment and in chill awareness the more we can ... live life authentically in the present moment without getting caught by our own habits of mind ... unhealthy if you will habits of mind we acceptance is a very active process there's nothing passive about it it's not passive resignation but it's an act of recognition that things are actually the way they are sometimes they're not the way we want them to be so acceptance doesn't mean that we can't work to change the world or to change circumstances of one kind or another but it means that unless we accept things as they are we will try to force things to be as they are not and that can create an enormous amount of ... if we recognize the actuality of things then we have the potential to apply ... wisdom in that situation to actually ... mmhm shift our own relationship to what is occurring in ways that might be profoundly healing and transformative but without acceptance of one the situation then I it's very difficult to know where to stand and without knowing where to stand it's very difficult to take the first step so some things are very hard to accept like ... when something ... when you experience ... ... pain for instance and you don't in your body and you don't know what it's from very very difficult to except that because ... we were first we want to know what it's coming from and if we don't have any answer for what is causing the pain and it can be very very difficult to accepted but what we find working with chronic pain patients is that before you can actually work with pain and suffering you need to actually put out the welcome mat for it and accepted as it is because our whatever has been done medically ... that could be done has been done and you're still living with a certain degree of pain what are people with chronic pain who come to our clinic experiences that there's a lot of different ways to actually work with pain but the first step is to actually put out the welcome mat for which is very hard to do when you're suffering but it's actually a gateway into our freedom from suffering so that's one of the most powerful ways in which ... ... acceptance can be brought to bear ... on 9 a healing in and ... transforming one 's life in is a very very powerful of a factor ... Hehe and is a very very powerful attitude in the cultivation of mindfulness letting go ... you can think of is the opposite of clinging or grasping there's a certain way which ... when we want something we could grasp it we cling to it even if it's an idea and very often we get very fixated in that kind of the way letting go is reminding us that it's possible to actually not get involved in grasping and clinging to what we want and trying to push away what it is that we don't want because it's inevitable that things will arise that are unpleasant who want to push those away and that other things will arise and they'll be pleasant will want to hold onto so letting go really means letting the it means allowing things to be yes they are and not but be too caught up and ... having to have them be a certain way when the evidence is they already I'm not that way so therefore not forcing it of course goes with not striving as well allowing things to be as they are in India they sometimes ... use a particular way of trapping monkeys with a ... they take a coconut Nate cut a small hole in one hand and then they tie the coconut with a wire to the base of a tree and they put ... banana inside the coconut and then monkeys come down from the trees and they put the hand in the coconut but the whole is crafted so that our if you grasp the banana you can't get your hand out of the hole fist is too big so you have to let go of the banana to actually release your hand so the Monkees don't want to let go and that's how they attract so letting go while letting things be as they are meanest allowing ... the recognition that when you are clocked by your own ... desire by your own attachment to things being a certain way that that's painful but that the letting go it's actually the doorway to freedom and that's something that you don't do wants it something that you practiced over and over and over again moment by moment by every time I skin every time you catch yourself clinging to something you remind let it be it is a slight echo the press can remind us of that too because every time we take it the and it was because the breath can remind us of that because every time we take a breath in after I com because otherwise there's no room for them express so it's a natural part of life to see and then release we see and I echo trust is a wonderful attitude to cultivate ... because there are so many different aspects of our lives that ... we're kind of strangers to and as we cultivate intimacy with ourselves we also cultivated deep sense of trustworthiness and trust and are a good place to start is with our selves and with our body so ... can we actually come to trust the natural wisdom of the body and ... how beautifully the body supports our life ... we very often take it totally for granted until something untoward happens but noticing that you know in general we can trust that the breath will take care of itself luckily because if we had to worry about the path we would die a long time ago ... so we trust that the breath comes in we trust that the path co sound we trust that the ears connection here we trust that the allies likes of the sea I trust that our our organs take care of all of that of metabolism and biology of in life where there's a whisper into the body that can remind us that out we ourselves are trustworthy and if there are so many beautiful things and so complex better unfolding so ... so ... beautifully in the body well why should the mind be any different why should the heart be any different so the more we can learn to bring trust to ourselves the more we can actually learn to bring tucked trust to our relationships and 2 other people into nature and 2 of the various challenges that we face in life so that ... we can actually ... reside in our own ... confidence in our own ability to ... meet whatever comes towards us in ways that can be effective it's all based on trusting ourselves and that's something that big can be cultivated by practice so every time we don't trust ourselves we can bring awareness to it and ... and remind ourselves that maybe this is a good opportunity to shift from really feeling like we're not able to trust something to actually trusting it when it's in ourselves when it involves a the people that gets a little bit more complicated because you don't want to trust naively but other wisdom factors will help us 2 I take care of that and I yeah I don't know if ... you've noticed this but ... lot of times I find that dime impatient I get to the next the important thing happening and ... so missing of the present moment because of my impatience so took actually intentionally cultivate patience and that kind of recognition that things unfold in their own way and that in some up profound ... way things cannot be hurried so when we're always rushing to get someplace else the by product of that is that we never where we actually are which is a tremendous sadness and a tremendous loss sometimes we're impatient with other people sometimes too impatient at work sometimes too impatient to get things done are but this wisdom of patients is something that is also profoundly healing and restorative and is a can to ... are recognizing as some children don't when they for instance tried to make the butterfly come out before its time from the chrysalis that ... certain things can't be hurried but things do one fold in their own time so if we actually learn to be patient with ourselves then were inhabiting the present moment in ways that ... have great comfort in great profundity of ... of ... both acceptance in wisdom associated with and in the cultivation of ... meditative awareness full awareness ... we've taken the unusual position for westerners actually not tried to get anywhere else this is what we call non striving or even non doing 2 are actually allow things to be held in awareness without having to operate on them without having to make anything happen or try to experience some special state of Iraq like relaxation or our well being or anything simply being with the unfolding of life from moment to moment without any agenda whatsoever it turns out this is tremendously healing tremendously restorative for us too because we have so many agendas and we're always on the way to some better moment in the future are trying to escape from something in the past but to actually be in a place where we are practicing non striving and non doing where we just let things be as they are is as I said tremendously ... nurturing and and healing not easy to do because we have so many different ... they have such so many different items on our to do list so the longer your to do list the longer we should die give ourselves some time to practice 9 doing all together and non striving realizing that whatever is already here is good enough even if it's not pleasant in this moment it's enough and we don't need to try to escape from it amid fix it or make anything tremendous discipline a tremendous attitude to bring to life and it doesn't mean you won't get things done on the contrary it means that whatever doing here to do will wind up coming out of being and therefore much greater wisdom that much greater appropriateness to the situation now people often ask me well why did you stop 7 and I say I don't know I mean I just ... stopped at 7 but I left out a few that I really probably I'm going to put in the next edition ... I'm one of them would be ... gratitude to bring gratitude to the present moment because well say for one thing just we're alive we take that so much for granted a little gratitude how the bodies working I'm breathing in brief thing out my eyes where my feet work if you know the the liver is working the kidneys are working I mean we take so much for granted so in that sense ... the the 7 attitudes are a way to remind us of that and gratitude ... really should be in that list ... another one would be generosity are a sense of like ... how powerful it is when you give yourself over to life and ... that you give other people what would make them happy not for yourself not so that you can Pat yourself on the back of the I am a generous person because it gives joy to others it it enhances interconnected are you demonstrate that you care and that you are actually giving some time and attention and fought to someone other than yourself so ... both gratitude and generosity ... I think should be included in that list I could go on but I think that ... 9 would be enough it's hard to keep more than 9 things in mind that anyone and of course they're all completely into connected so you don't have to actually remember any of it if you are practicing non striving then up everything else is embedded in that acceptance in bed is in bed and acceptance is embedded in that generosity is embedded in that ... a gratitude is embedded in that trustees and better than that and so forth so anyone of these our attitudes is a door into all of them and that's why they really are forming in some sense just ... different ... ways of understanding what mindful it's really about and I probably should say that in all Asian languages the word from mind in the word for heart of the same word so in English when you hear the word mindfulness if you're not hearing the word heart form ... you really not understanding it fully and so that hot those attitudes are really part of the heart famous element of it ... whether it's seeing things as they actually are the most profound thing you can see is the interconnectedness of all things as soon as you see that then emotions like anger for instance are very different because ... or fear for that matter I've really transformed in some way because of our our inter connectedness so so it's a way of seeing other people as they really are and not necessarily seen them as threats and then being able to find some domain of commonality that comes out of the heart becomes out of the head becomes out of the body that comes out of life as one completely integrated whole and the yeah //



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